Have you ever been in a social situation where one person seems to love talking about how sick or how exhausted they are? They can drain your energy like a vampire, sucking it right from you!
I like being able to answer the question, “How are you?” authentically and honestly without draining my energy or anyone else’s with my answer.
When I was taking back my life from illness in the mid 90’s, I stopped saying things like, “I’m sick.” or “I’m exhausted.” Not only does it drain me personally, I don’t choose to spend time focusing on what I don’t want. Instead, I focus on what I am choosing and that’s what I affirm when I answer the question.
If you identify with feeling sick, affirm that you are healing and tell others that when they ask. I say things like, “I’m in healing mode”, or “recovery mode”. If I really have to talk about it (because there’s a lesson at the end I hoping to share), I’ll say something like, “MUCH better than last week! I’m grateful to be recovered now!” If the person wants to know more, they’ll ask. If they don’t ask, at least I’m feeling grateful and that is the energy I’m putting out. This positive energy moves the conversation forward without any time for complaining.
Your thoughts were focused on being sick because you felt sick and that’s what you continued to focus on. Now, as you focus on being well, or feel gratitude (a very high vibration for the cells in your body), your thoughts begin to change to support the new feeling. And, as you continue to think differently, you leave a clear channel for your body to do it’s best healing work now that it has the proper chemical soup that you’ve created with your new thoughts and feelings.
If you identify with being exhausted, you’ve probably been doing too much. And the more you tell people you are exhausted, the more exhausted both of you feel because that energy is very heavy and draining. Acknowledge the over commitment or the limiting beliefs over the feeling or exhaustion or you’ll deepen it.
The more you say what you don’t want out loud, the more you affirm it’s truth and power over you and the more you’ll feel it!
I say things like, “I forgot there was no such thing as multi tasking and I’m working my way out of it!” I can laugh at the truth of that and then immediately think of a way to be nice to myself by taking a breath and re-prioritize more realistically.
In whatever way you can, take responsibility and choose a new course.
Every day I do something to take care of myself. The quickest way to change my feelings and upgrade my thoughts is practicing 10 minutes of a meditative technique that opens up my pre-frontal cortex (PFC) and calms down the lower brain – that beast that likes to ramble on about things which I have no desire to focus on. For a video to see what this technique is like sign up here. For a limited time, FREE sessions are available!
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